By: Mohamed Assran ID: 186237
Divorces over the last decade and years has been on the rise everywhere around the world but especially in third world countries like Egypt. According to Egypt’s Social Solidarity Minister, the number of divorce cases in Egypt has increased over the past decade from around 100,000 to a record of 186,000, showing a spike upsurge of 86% from its original number. Though the government still tackles this issue and are creating new measures to help prevent those divorces, which make up around 20% of some 980,000 marriages held every year according to the United Nation Population Division, the huge problem still lies ahead which is who gets custody of the children after the divorce?
According to the Office of National Statistics (ONS) most recent number crunch shows that in 2014, the woman or mother was the party or side that initiated the divorce in 66% of cases that year around the world. It used to be even higher: 69% in 2001 and a 72% at the start of the 1990s. This reveals that women are the ones that usually destroy those marriages and don’t try to hang around to put in the effort and try to fix the marriage but rather look for the easier way out. Why should the father suffer based on the mother’s incapability to deal with any problem and emotions in a marriage .We have and always will live in a patriarchal society controlled by men to be honest because women are also less capable of getting a good salary and unable to provide for their children a healthy lifestyle unlike the father.
One might debate that the mother is the essence of any family and that she is the one that gave birth to the child in the first place but does that show any more love and compassion than a father? Does childbearing give you the right to keep the child although both parents love their child equally? Also, people feel more sympathy towards the mother always in these kind of situations like she isn’t the one to blame or rather that she has nothing in her life except her child thus proving that she deserves to keep the child. Furthermore, some argue that the mother is capable to financially provide for her child after a divorce just like the father so there is no reason for the child to be taken custody with the father.
Due to the high rate of divorces that women initiate, married men are generally feel like sitting ducks waiting to be left. Men, often being the highest earners in a family fear the crippling costs of a split and how it also effects the child financially and mentally therefore some people should feel some sympathy towards the father as well. A Cambridge University study detected that women see their per capita income drop by an average of around 31% immediately after a divorce so does that really show that a mother is able to withstand all pressure and stress of providing for the child because we have to be realistic, not everything is just dandy emotions and wishes. The reality is that men eventually are able to raise their children especially if they are boys better than the mother because they have financial backing and able to raise their children well. Women criticize men for their fear of commitment but look at the statistics and tell me who’s afraid of real commitment more, the mother or the father?
As you might have realized, this is a complicated issue and we can argue about this everyday but clearly and realistically, the father is and will always be the more efficient parent figure in having an effect on the child as they grow up and that the father is also able to take the mothers role and succeed. The only reason why some children choose their mothers custody when they are a bit young around the age of 15 for example is that they feel guilty for not choosing their lonely mother who supposedly gave birth to them even if they know, she is not capable of raising them well and living in poverty. Just to clarify, the father also essentially feels lonely and weak after a divorce so next time you go siding with the mother after a divorce, consider thinking of the father because he is also a human being with emotions.
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